“We are not our bodies, our possessions, or our career. Who we are is Divine Love and that is Infinite.” Dr. Wayne W. Dyer (1940-2015)
There are people in this world who can touch our hearts in really profound and meaningful ways, and that’s exactly the impact Wayne Dyer had on me.
Wayne W. Dyer, you were one of the most beautiful, humble and authentic people who ever walked on this Earth. I learned so much from you. You taught me how to be humble, how to live in love and truth, and how to always honor who I truly am underneath it all. You taught me how to be better than I used to be and I will always be thankful for this. Thank you for sharing your love, your knowledge, and your wisdom with all of us.
The world was, is, and will be a better place just because you have lived. You will be greatly missed.
15 Life-Changing Lessons to Learn from the Wise Wayne Dyer
1. Cooperation is healthier than competition.
Work on improving your own person and be so busy doing so that you don’t have time to compare and compete with others. We are all in this together and this sense of separation will only weaken us, creating more pain and suffering.
“If you’re always in a hurry, always trying to get ahead of the other guy, or someone else’s performance is what motivates you, then that person is in control of you.” ~ Wayne Dyer
2. If you love people you don’t try to change them.
When you love somebody you love them for what they are not for what you want them to be, without imposing your will and without constantly trying to change them.
“Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you.” ~ Wayne Dyer
3. Ignorance is not bliss.
Allow yourself to expand your mind a little more day by day, give up labels and you will be happier. If you constantly say no to ‘strange’ ideas, things, events, people, how can you expect to progress through life? Try new things, if it makes your life better, stick to it and if it doesn’t, let it go. It’s that simple.
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” ~ Wayne Dyer
4. You are not a victim of the world.
When you affirm things like, You make me mad, this situation is upsetting me, I can’t believe you are treating me this way, etc., you start playing the victim game.
Take responsibility for your own thoughts, your own feelings, and actions. In doing so you will no longer give your power away to forces outside yourself. When something negative comes your way, you will pause and instead of reacting, you will RESPOND, to everything and everyone. You will no longer be a victim, but rather a person who is aware of his/her inner strength and power.
“How people treat you is their karma; how you react is yours.” ~ Wayne Dyer
5. You find yourself through solitude.
If you are comfortable in your own skin and really love your own person, you will not be afraid to spend time alone. You will enjoy the time you spend alone as much as you do when you are surrounded by people you dearly love.
“You cannot be lonely if you like the person you’re alone with.” ~ Wayne Dyer
6. Rejection makes you stronger.
If you trust and listen to your own heart and intuition, you will always know where to go and what to do with your life. No matter how many doors close in your face, you will not give up and you will allow rejection to make you stronger and better, not bitter.
“Be grateful to all those people who told you no. It’s because of them that you managed to do it all yourself.” ~ Wayne Dyer
7. Self-worth cannot be verified by others.
If you constantly seek outside yourself for approval and validation, you will never be happy. We are all different and we all perceive things in different ways but your reputation is not something you can really control.
Your reputation is not really in your hands, so stop trying to please everyone around you and start pleasing your SELF. You are the person who matters the most and if you yourself are not happy with who you are, chances are others will not be happy with you either.
“Self-worth cannot be verified by others. You are worthy because you say it is so. If you depend on others for your value it is other-worth.” ~ Wayne Dyer
8. You don’t attract what you want in your life, you attract what you are.
People often think if they focus long enough on something they want, with the Law of Attraction and everything, they will get whatever they want in life, but that’s not how things work.
If you purify your mind and heart, you will attract many beautiful things into your life, and abundance will not be something you will have to chase because it will chase you. On the other hand, if your mind and heart are full of negativity, negativity in all forms will show up in your life.
”If you’re obsessed with defeating the other guy and winning at all costs, then you’re guaranteed to attract the vibrational equivalent of this thinking into your life- even if you do yoga and stand on your head chanting mantras everyday.” ~ Wayne Dyer
9. There are no limits to what you can achieve – you are a no-limit person.
There are no limits to what you can achieve, only those you choose to impose on yourself.
“When you argue for your limitations, all you get are your limitations.” ~ Wayne Dyer
10. “Heaven on earth” is a choice you must make, not a place you must find.
Focus on the BAD and that’s all you will see and attract into your life; focus on the GOOD and that’s all you will see and attract into your life.
“Loving people live in a loving world. Hostile people live in a hostile world. Same world.” ~ Wayne Dyer
11. No need to stress over everything.
Believe it or not, there is an invisible force who created the whole world, the whole Universe and this force become available to us the moment we stop trying to do it all by ourselves, the moment we decide to allow events to take their natural course and just go with the FLOW.
“Good morning, this is God. I will be handling all of your problems today. I will not need your help. So have a miraculous day.” ~ Wayne Dyer
12. All that you need is already within you.
At this moment you have it all, right NOW and right here, there is nothing lacking. Take time to be quiet at least 5 minutes per day and in time you will discover that you do have access to Happiness, Peace, Abundance, and all that is good.
You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now. ~ Wayne Dyer
13. There is no end to personal growth.
Personal growth doesn’t end when you finish school. The moment you’ve stopped growing you can say that you’ve stopped living.
Individuals who use self-labels are stating, “I’m a finished product in this area, and I’m never going to be any different.” If you’re a finished product all tied up and put away, you’ve stopped growing. ~ Wayne Dyer
14. Be realistic, expect miracles
There is a great power in the Universe, the Source of it all, and this power makes itself available to you the moment you align with who you really are deep down inside, creating miracles for you and those you love.
Once you believe in yourself and see your soul as divine and precious, you’ll automatically be converted to a being who can create miracles. ~ Wayne Dyer
15. Follow your heart and you will be successful.
This is such a powerful truth that only a few of us get to live and discover. When you get your life on purpose, when you focus on giving the best of yourself to the world, abundance will flow freely into your life and you will discover happiness you never thought could be yours.
“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.” ~ Wayne Dyer
Bonus:
“All blame is a waste of time. No matter how much fault you find with another, and regardless of how much you blame him, it will not change you. The only thing blame does is to keep the focus off you when you are looking for external reasons to explain your unhappiness or frustration.
You may succeed in making another feel guilty about something by blaming him, but you won’t succeed in changing whatever it is about you that is making you unhappy. ”~ Wayne Dyer
“The more you see yourself as what you’d like to become, and act as if what you want is already there, the more you’ll activate those dormant forces that will collaborate to transform your dream into your reality.”~ Wayne Dyer
“Fear of the unknown. They are afraid of new ideas. They are loaded with prejudices, not based upon anything in reality, but based on…
if something is new, I reject it immediately because it’s frightening to me. What they do instead is just stay with the familiar. You know, to me, the most beautiful things in all the universe, are the most mysterious.”~ Wayne Dyer
“Not only do you become what you think about, but the world also becomes what you think about. Those who think that the world is a dark place are blind to the light that might illuminate their lives. Those who see the light of the world view the dark spots as merely potential light.”~ Wayne Dyer
“When you squeeze an orange, you’ll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what’s inside. The same logic applies to you: when someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or anxiety, that is what’s inside. If love and joy are what you want to give and receive, change your life by changing what’s inside.”~ Wayne Dyer
“Becoming the observer (step back) you begin to live in process, trusting where our source is taking you. You begin to detach from the outcome. That detachment allows you to stop fighting and allows things to just come to you; you no longer make things happen but allow them to show up. The fight is gone!”~ Wayne Dyer
“Think about every single person who has ever harmed you, cheated you, defrauded you, or said unkind things about you. Your experience of them is nothing more than a thought that you carry around with you. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will disempower you. If you could release them, you would know more peace.”~ Wayne Dyer
“There is a story concerning the Buddha, who is in the company of a fellow traveler who tests this great teacher with derogatory, insulting, disparaging, and bitter responses to anything the Buddha says. Every day, for three days when the Buddha spoke, the traveler responded by calling him a fool, and ridiculing the Buddha in some arrogant fashion.
Finally, at the end of the third day, the traveler could stand it no more. He asked, “How is it that you are able to be so loving and kind when all I’ve done for the past three days is dishonor and offend you? Each time I am disobliging to you, you respond in a loving manner. How is this possible?” The Buddha responded with a question of his own for the traveler. “If someone offers you a gift, and you do not accept that gift, to whom does the gift belong?”~ Wayne Dyer
“Remind yourself daily that there is no way to happiness; rather, happiness is the way. You may have a long list of goals that you believe will provide you with contentment when they’re achieved, yet if you examine your state of happiness in this moment, you’ll notice that the fulfillment of some previous ambitions didn’t create an enduring sense of joy.
Desires can produce anxiety, stress, and competitiveness, and you need to recognize those that do. Bring happiness to every encounter in life, instead of expecting external events to produce joy. By staying in harmony on the path of the Tao, all the contentment you could ever dream of will begin to flow into your life—the right people, the means to finance where you’re headed, and the necessary factors will come together. “Stop pushing yourself,” Lao-tzu would say, “and feel gratitude and awe for what is. Your life is controlled by something far bigger and more significant than the petty details of your lofty aspirations.”~ Wayne Dyer
“When you’re connected to the power of intention, everywhere you go, and everyone you meet, is affected by you and the energy you radiate. As you become the power of intention, you’ll see your dreams being fulfilled almost magically, and you’ll see yourself creating huge ripples in the energy fields of others by your presence and nothing more.”~ Wayne Dyer
“Not being offended is a way of saying, “I have control over how I’m going to feel, and I choose to feel peaceful regardless of what I observe going on. When you feel offended, you’re practicing judgment. You judge someone else to be stupid, insensitive, rude, arrogant, inconsiderate, or foolish, and then you find yourself upset and offended by their conduct. What you may not realize is that when you judge another person, you do not define them. You define yourself as someone who needs to judge others.”~ Wayne Dyer
“There are two occasions when complaining is least appreciated in the world: (1) Whenever you tell someone else that you are tired. (2) Whenever you tell someone else that you don’t feel well. If you are tired, you can exercise several options, but complaining to even one poor soul, let alone a loved one, is abusing that person. And it won’t make you less tired. The same kind of logic applies to your “not feeling well.”~ Wayne Dyer
“If whatever follows these two words is not fully aligned with your perception of how the creative Source of the universe would be speaking, then make the correction on the spot. Say to yourself “I am the resurrection and the life in thought and feeling.”
According to The “I AM” Discourses of Saint Germain: “It immediately turns all the energy of your Being to the center in the brain which is the source of your Being. You cannot overestimate the Power in this Statement. There is no limit to what you can do with it. It was the Statement that Jesus used most”~ Wayne Dyer
~love, Luminita 💫
And these are the 15 powerful life-changing lessons to learn from Wayne Dyer. I hope these lessons will inspire you to become a better person and live a more meaningful and fulfilling life.
** What about you? Do you have a favorite quote, or maybe a particular lesson you have learned from Wayne Dyer? If you do, please share it with us in the comment section below 🙂