Failing To Learn From Your Mistakes?

Are you one of those people who keep attracting the same events, the same situations and the same people in their lives over and over again? Do you go from one love relationship to another just to realize that the only things that have changed is the person you are with, but not the quality of the relationship?

Are you having the same relationships over and over again but with different people, and you simply can’t understand why in the world is that happening to you?

Crazy, ha?

And of course, this doesn’t only apply to love relationships but to all areas of life. You expect the world to change but nothing happens. You keep on changing the places you live in, your friends, your jobs, your country, your planet, but nothing seems to work anymore. Why is that?

It’s funny how so many of us keep on running from our problems, hoping that once we change our circumstances, the places we live in, once we change our husbands or wives, girlfriends or boyfriends, things will finally be different. Well, maybe they are different but just for a little while, and no matter if you move from Japan to Russia, to USA, France, Brazil or Denmark, you will always be faced with the same challenging situations, and with the same “difficult” people over and over again, until you realize that maybe it’s time to stop running, stop blaming everybody and see that the problem lies within you.

I know it’s hard to accept this idea, a lot of people can’t even think about it, but you are the one who is attracting all of these people and situations in your life, for one reason or another. Your level of consciousness is to blame. It is said that the moment you elevate your consciousness, smarter people start showing up in your life, while on the other hand… Well, maybe if you take a look around you, you might realize where your level of consciousness really is. Like attracts like…

Failing To Learn From Your Mistakes?

All that is happening to you right now and all that ever happened to you in the past, it happened because you attracted all of them and because there was a lesson for you to learn, but unfortunately, too many of us are too stubborn to really get this. We keep on making the same mistakes, attracting the same horrible people over and over again, and instead of trying to understand why is that happening, instead of focusing on the lessons, we are focusing on the problems, and unfortunately we get stuck at this level, not being able to see the big picture.

I have learned more from my mistakes than from my successes. ~ Humphrey Davy

I know one person who does just that. For as long as I know her she had been doing the same mistakes over and over again. You would think that after years and years of failed relationships she would get the lesson, but no. She does the same mistakes, she always gets the same results, and the interesting part is that she always acts surprised like she didn’t expect that to happen.

You know what the sad part is? These people, because they have no clue who they are or because they haven’t accepted themselves for who and  what they are, can’t stand the thought of being alone for too long, and instead of taking advantage of this time of solitude to take care of themselves; to know themselves better; instead of spending some “me time”, or maybe cultivating a new habit; trying to find and love themselves, they rush back into another relationship. And just like I said before, the partners might have new faces, new clothes, new bodies, but the relationships are almost the same.

These people are constantly running away from something, running away from themselves, their lives and the challenges they are faced with, instead of taking some time to work on correcting themselves; instead of taking some time to see where the problem really lies, and they keep on pretending, acting like there is no problem, at least not with them.

It is not necessary to change. Survival is not mandatory. ~  W. Edwards Deming

It’s such a pity that you just can’t help these people, no matter how much you try, no matter how much you would love to, and you know why? Because they don’t want to be helped, and because they don’t see things as they really are. The moment they will decide that maybe it’s time to stop expecting the world to change and instead to work on changing and healing themselves, maybe then, they will be willing to accept your help and support.

~love, Luminita💫


Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita is the Founder and Editor in Chief of and also the author of 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy: An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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  • reap

    at 11:15 am

    Filters and boundaries stop the same things from happening in our lives. You allow yourself to “get over” the situation but you don’t “block” the same people from entering or abusing your sphere of influence. STOP helping them, stop rescuing; you said it yourself “I always feel trapped, torn apart between wanting to leave and staying..” Walk away sometimes, without excuse or explanation; looking for closure…leaves you exposed. And why would you do that when folks are using you?! Don’t explain, please; get the message.

  • danaadmin

    at 1:16 am

    Tania, I understand how you feel but you know what? Even though it may sound too simplistic, just by deciding that you no longer want to experience these things and just by setting your intention regarding the things you want for yourself and your life, things will shift and as you will walk your path, looking back you will see these things 🙂

    Think about the things you want for yourself, set your intentions and work on seeing yourself already these, feel those feelings that come from doing just that and you will see how things will start to happen. Infinite Love and Peace!

  • Tania

    at 9:22 pm

    Well…what if I don’t know what the lessons are? I am one of those people – same relationship over and over again but why? Even if I put the question out there ‘please tell me what I have to learn from this’ it doesn’t work. No matter what I do…in one way or another I’m cheated on, I’m used to make ‘their’ dreams come true, I become invisible and I’m taken for granted, my voice is not heard, my ideas are always wrong but I’m the person behind their successes. I always feel trapped, torn apart between wanting to leave and staying. I even get to do the same ‘tasks’ over and over again. And I had some ‘me time’, too. I attract the exact opposite of me – no matter what.


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