5 Important Questions to Help You Figure out What You Really Want

I used to be the queen of indecisiveness. I blamed it on my Virgo sun sign. But, really, my inability to make decisions came from believing I didn’t really know what I wanted. Eventually, though, I realized most of it boiled down to fear and I came up with these 5 important questions to help make every situation, and what I wanted in it, crystal clear.

Important Questions

“The time will pass anyway, you can either spend it creating the life you want or spend it living the life you don’t want. The choice is yours.” ~ Unknown

5 Important Questions to Help You Figure out What You Really Want

These important questions work for just about every type of decision we have to make, so start askin’ away and you might just be surprised to find out what you really want.

1. If no one else had any opinion about this, how would I feel?

This is one of the first important questions you’d need to ask yourself but it’s so easy to let what other people think to cloud our own clarity. We often value other’s opinions over our own, and sometimes prefer to listen to others so we’re “off the hook” if it doesn’t work out perfectly.

By filtering out other people’s opinions (or even smarter, not asking them in the first place), the voice that speaks to us most loudly about what we should do, will always be our own.

5 Important Questions to Help You Figure out What You Really Want

2. Is the fear of failure, or of success, standing in my way?

If failures were obsolete, we’d all be more aligned with our hearts. The fear of failure and humiliation are very real and very present during decision-making. Equally as important to pay attention to, though, is the fear of success. When we succeed, our lives can change drastically too and sometimes, that’s just as scary.

Gently looking at our fears is a great way to determine if our indecisiveness is because we’re scared to excel, or scared to fail.

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.”~ Maya Angelou

3. If nobody’s feelings could get hurt, what would I do?

The third of these five important questions is a truly important one.

I have always had a major heavy heart about hurting other people’s feelings. This, I know, has steered me far from choosing what’s best for me, many times. Asking this important question can be one of the most powerful. When we remove our fear of hurting others from the equation, we can usually quickly see what we truly want for ourselves.

4. If I wasn’t trying to be “practical,” what would I decide?

Feeling like we need to be “practical” and “reasonable” is often a limiting belief. Of course, we do need to worry about some realities of life, but most times our limits are just created by rules we’ve been playing with our whole lives. And we never stop to think it might be good to change them.

It’s ok to stretch our desires into the “fun” and “exciting” instead of the practical, extend beyond the safe boundaries of where we’ve been living, and know we can dream bigger for ourselves than we’ve been allowing ourselves to.

5. Will I survive even if it doesn’t work out?

5 Important Questions to Help You Figure out What You Really Want

This one is the last of the five important questions you need to ask yourself. Decisions are tough, but even when we believe we made the “wrong” one, we usually survive them anyway. One of the best ways to eliminate fear about figuring out and going after what we really want is reminding ourselves that we’ll survive, even if things don’t turn ours perfectly. Perspective is everything.

And these are the 5 important questions meant to help you figure out what you want. Now that you know what you really want, are you brave enough to choose it? You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below 🙂


Amy B. Scher

Amy B. Scher is an expert in mind-body-spirit healing and is often lovingly referred to as an “accidental guru.” She is the bestselling author of This Is How I Save My Life (January 2013) and has been featured in publications such as CNN, Curve magazine, Divine Caroline, and was named one of Advocate’s “40 Under 40″ for 2013. Most importantly, she lives by the self-created motto: “When life kicks your ass, kick back.” www.amybscher.com

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