One Little Secret to Lasting LoveI’m here not because I am supposed to be here, or because I’m trapped here, but because I’d rather be with you than anywhere else in the world. ~ Richard Bach

What is LOVE? Who can give us the answer to this question? Does anyone know what LOVE is really all about? Does anyone know what it takes for a love relationship to last and to flourish more and more as time goes by?

We like to think that there is a soulmate for all of us somewhere out there and that this special someone will make us HAPPY and will make the Sun forever shine on our street. The moment we enter a new relationship we already have a scenario prepared in our heads and we already know what is it exactly that needs to happen and when reality doesn’t match our imagination we get disappointed and we end up heart broken . This is one of the many reasons people give up on LOVE, this beautiful thing that we are all searching for and this is why our lives become so empty and meaningless.

Is LOVE still alive? Can we still dream about the ONE and hope one day this charming person who is meant to transform our lives will come our way? Well, I trust that after reading this beautiful story you will be able to answer to this question yourself.

“Years ago, I asked God to give me a spouse.

“You don’t own because you didn’t ask” God said.

Not only I asked for a spouse but also explained what kind of spouse I wanted. I want a nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest, peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent, humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful. I even mentioned the physical characteristics I dreamt about.

As time went by I added the required list of my wanted spouse. One night, in my prayer, God talked to my heart:

“My servant, I cannot give you what you want.”

I asked, “Why God?” and God said

“Because I am God and I am fair. God is the truth and all I do are true and right.”

I asked “God, I don’t understand why I cannot have what I ask from you?”

God answered, “I will explain. It is not fair and right for Me to fulfill your demand because I cannot give something that is not your own self.

It is not fair to give someone who is full of love to you if sometimes you are still hostile, or to give you someone generous but sometimes you can be cruel, or someone forgiving; however, you still hide revenge, someone sensitive; however, you are very insensitive….”

He then said to me:

“It is better for Me to give you someone who I know could grow to have all qualities you are searching rather than to make you waste your time to find someone who already has the qualities you want.

Your spouse would be bone from your bone and flesh from your flesh and you will see yourself in her and both of you will be one. Marriage is like a school. It is a life-long span education. It is where you and your partner make adjustment and aim not merely to please each other, but to be better human beings and to make a solid teamwork.

I do not give you a perfect partner, because you are not perfect either. I give you a partner with whom you would grow together.” Author Unknown

With all my love,

danas medium



Like this post? Then sign-up for our “Daily Dose of Inspiration” Newsletter. It’s FREE ! Over30,000 likeminded people have already registered.


Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita is the Founder and Editor in Chief of and also the author of 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy: An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

read more


  • GradGirl

    at 8:50 pm

    I’ll take 15 until I can find a one who can be all the 15. I’m a whole lot of woman. 🙂

  • Pam

    at 9:09 pm

    To #3 Janet, I, too, had the perfect love of my life and he passed from cancer 6 months ago. I am still grieving and trying to cope with life without my beloved by my side, but it is hard. We found each other in a most unusual way and I asked God for him to be my husband after I knew him for 2 months. We were married 15 years. I miss him so much… RIP, my darling Dan…

  • grace glenn

    at 10:14 am


  • janice

    at 5:36 pm

    fabulous..this is really true…

  • janet

    at 2:45 pm

    the love of my life was all of those things ! I wasn’t ..we were the happiest of all ! he passed, & i feel lost , but SO blessed to have had this love for 16years 🙂

  • Judy Krings

    at 1:10 pm

    Love in your life wasn’t put here to stay,
    Love isn’t love till you give it away.

  • Eliot Braun

    at 12:57 pm

    What about celibacy as a means toward spiritual fulfillment? This is where I am trying to be but sometimes I feel like I’m repressing or avoiding.

  • Chetan

    at 7:46 am

    Perfect article indeed ! ,..So matured thoughts .

  • denise

    at 6:51 am

    aww. yes; life is but a mystery; and so wonderful to point out; we must not want what we do not have;

    also growing together and the school part,

    I like. its real 😉

  • Jaqueline

    at 8:44 pm

    GREAT post, I really enjoyed the story and lesson here! Thank you!

  • Mike

    at 4:30 pm

    I think God is fair to everyone of us. He wants you to have only one spouse but you are asking for more than fifteen. You mentioned that you want nice, tender, forgiving, passionate, honest, peaceful, generous, understanding, pleasant, warm, intelligent, humorous, attentive, compassionate and truthful plus you also mentioned your desire physical characteristic. See? That’s more than fifteen 😀 😀 😀 LOL, I am just kidding!


WP Twitter Auto Publish Powered By :