Note to Self Don't Believe Everything You Hear

“My dear friends, don’t believe everything you hear. Carefully weigh and examine what people tell you.” ~ 1 John 4

It seems to me that right from the moment we come into this world, we are “trained” and “educated” into becoming something we are not. We are persuaded into living our lives in a very fearful and unauthentic way and we are made to believe that who we are is never enough and that we have to work very hard to prove our worth. 

I have no idea where it all starts, and why is it that it’s so easy for us to fall into this trap of believing everything we hear, but what I do know for sure is that it’s our duty and responsibility to free ourselves from all the errors and all the limitations that were imposed on us by those around us so that we can discover the beauty, the greatness, the love and the power that is hidden deep within each and every one of us, so that we can start living our lives from a loving, courageous and authentic place…

Look how beautifully John Lennon spoke about this…

“They made us believe that real love, the one that’s strong, only happens once, more likely before your 30s. They never told us that love is not something that you can put in motion, neither has the time schedule.

They made us believe that each one of us is the half of an orange and that life only makes sense when you find that other half. They did not tell us that we were born as a whole and that no-one in our lives deserves to carry on his back such responsibility of completing what is missing on us: we grow through life by ourselves. If we have a good company it’s just more pleasant.

They made us believe in a formula “two in one”: two people sharing the same line of thinking, same ideas, and that it is what works. It’s never been told that it has another name: invalidation. Only two individuals with their own personality is how you can have a healthy relationship. It has been made to believe that marriage is an obliged institution and that fantasies out of hour should be repressed.

They made us believe that there’s one-way formula to be happy, the same one to everybody, and the ones that escape from that are condemned to be delinquents. We have never been told that those formulas go wrong, they get people frustrated, they are alienating, and that we can try other alternatives.

Oh! Also, they did not tell us that no one will tell us these things. Each and every one of us will have to learn by ourselves. And, when we get to the point that you are in love with yourself first, that’s when you can fall in love with somebody…

We live in a world where we hide to make love … although violence is practiced in broad daylight.”~ John Lennon

What is one thing you heard from those around you that you have later on discovered not to be true for you?  You can share your comment by joining the conversation in the comment section below 🙂

~love, Luminita💫


Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita is the Founder and Editor in Chief of and also the author of 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy: An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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