We give so much power to everyone around us over ourselves and our lives. Because we assume that “they” all know a lot more about ourselves and our path than we do, we ignore our inner voice and intuition, making everyone’s thoughts, ideas and opinions a lot more important than our own.

Stop Betraying Yourself

“There’s nothing more painful than trying to live your life the way everyone expects you to live it— betraying your own soul just so you can please the world around you.” ~ Luminita D. Saviuc, 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happ, An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy

The life you are living was given to you to live it according to your own Truth. And it’s your responsibility to walk your path with love and integrity without betraying yourself. 

12 Steps to Stop Betraying Yourself and Get Your Voice Back

Today I would like to share with you 12 steps that will teach you how to stop betraying yourself so that you can get your voice back and live your life in Truth, Love, and Integrity.

1. Stop betraying yourself by being honest with yourself.

Take a look at yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself:

“Is this the life I want to be living?

Is this the person I want to be?”

And be honest with yourself in answering these questions. 

2. Accept with grace all that you face.

Accept all the resentment, negative emotions and the inner turmoil that might surface as you ask yourself the questions mentioned above. And let things be as they are without trying to change or fix them in any way.

3. Stop betraying yourself and breathe deeply.

Breathe deeply and mindfully. And while you visualize yourself inhaling peace and exhaling all that is negative and toxic, repeat these words to yourself:

“This too shall pass.”

4. Forgive and let go.

Forgive Yourself for ignoring your inner voice and guidance and for making other people’s thoughts, ideas and opinions more important than your own. And forgive Them for misleading you and for making you feel as if you never were enough – good enough, smart enough, knowledgeable enough, and so on. Forgive and let go.

5. Treat yourself with gentleness.   

Give yourself the love, comfort, and understanding you truly need and deserve in these moments. Understand that you did the best you knew how. And now that you know better, you can do better.

6. Scream from the top of your lungs.

Find a place where you can scream from the top of your lungs. And do this as long as you need to.

Do it!

It will help you release the stuck energy, the pain and the blocks that have been preventing you from speaking your Truth for all this time. 

7. Stop betraying yourself and get your voice back.

Go out there in the world and dare to open your mouth and talk about the things that matter to you. And if this feels like too big of a stretch, you can start by having small conversations with yourself in the mirror. Do this for 1 to 5 minutes a day for 30 days, and eventually, you will find the inner courage to speak your Truth loud and clear.

8. Speak your Truth.

Start by saying “yes” ONLY when you feel like saying “yes”, and “no” ONLY when you feel like saying “no”. Dare to speak your Truth at all times and do it with grace and confidence. 

9. Trust yourself with all your heart.

Know that nobody in this whole world knows a lot more about yourself and the path you’re meant to walk upon than you yourself do. So trust yourself – your inner wisdom, guidance, and intuition – with all your heart. 

10. Listen to your heart. Follow your intuition.

Listen to your inner voice and intuition as they will always guide you in the right direction. 

11. Take good care of yourself.

Treat yourself with the love and respect you truly deserve. Give yourself all the love and affection you want the world to give you. Take good care of yourself, and you will be able to take good care of others also. 

12. Stop betraying yourself and live life Your Way.

Set an intention to make the rest of your life the best of your life. To live life Your Way. Set an intention to always do what feels right in your heart, and to never ever ever again betray yourself just so you can please those around you. 

What is ONE thing you feel that you need to do in order to stop betraying yourself and get your voice back? You can share your insights by commenting below 🙂

~love, Luminita💫


Luminita D. Saviuc

Luminita is the Founder and Editor in Chief of PurposeFairy.com and also the author of 15 Things You Should Give Up to Be Happy: An Inspiring Guide to Discovering Effortless Joy. For more details check out the 15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy Book Page.

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  • Feeding My Soul

    at 4:55 pm

    This is a wonderful post…something I have been actively working on and why I travelled solo on my last holiday. Thank you for sharing! feedingmysoulnow.wordpress.com

  • Jazzy

    at 3:06 pm

    Thank you Luminita ! Yes it’s so important to follow our intuition in life ! I have done so and now reap the benefits;)

  • Hannah Porat

    at 7:29 am

    Bs”d Tuesday January 31st 2017

    From the time I learn to obey my father (which leads me into abuse in the submission of the little girl that knew what was right and wrong and was powerless to stand up for herself and get the big angry drunk man that really was a frightened and confused orphan boy out of her bed) I am unlearning at 53 to make men my authority figures and instead listen ONLY to my authentic self.

    The challenge is to first access this precious inner person the real Hannah but driven by the pain of life that results from its absence and also the pain of wandering around a labyrinth of false cues from others that result in costly detours the decision is clear:

    Stand alone e.g. on my own and live with the challenge of accepting my own leadership of my brilliant, smart, awesome, powerful and wise and gentle authentic self and supporting MY SELF 100% with acts of goodness and kindness – FOR ME, for my children, for my community.

    Staff, a good car, start up fund, routines, daily nutrition, healthy relationships with healthy people, happy exercise, a clear vision and mission, and a host of other life enhancing and life supporting strategies and practices chief among them:


    So instead of stopping at mid-course I can now fulfill what I came to do here in Israel successfully.

    And see my 5 children all thrive and flourish out of me doing so first.

  • Rashmi

    at 9:16 pm

    Read it somewhere and is my favorite, “Speak your mind out, even if your voice shakes”

  • Tina

    at 9:09 pm

    The article came at the right time for me. I am going through a confusing time as I recently ended a relationship with someone. While we were together I felt several times my gut was telling me something was not right with this person. But I only ended things with him after I received advice from friends and family telling me he was the wrong person for me. The problem I face now is that I can’t stop crying and missing that person, and the temptation to try to reach out to him or try to fix things is still strong. I will practice the exercises here to try to figure out whether I was true to myself in that decision or if I let the outside influence me too much. Any additional advice would be highly appreciated

  • D

    at 7:42 pm

    I really don’t know how to answer the question. I feel I’ve lost my ability to make choices and decisions in my life. I just go through the motions, weather it’s at work or home or in trying to keep a relationship work. And in that area I’m very clueless, had a girlfriend who was using me all along sneaking around behind my back but I didn’t want to believe it even when I knew it could be true. I seem to betray myself on a daily basis givinh people powet over me and i dont know how tp stop.

  • D

    at 7:36 pm

    I really feel I’m losing my ability to make choices and decision. I don’t know how to answer the question what are you doing to betray yourself. I guess it would be giving into people in order to sto wasting my energy arguing over things that don’t really matter.

  • Lisa Stamper

    at 6:39 pm

    Thank you for your wisdom and for speaking your truths

  • Lisa Stamper

    at 6:38 pm

    Love this! Thank you for your wisdom and sharing your truths

  • Ken

    at 6:16 pm

    Balance in all things … every breath IS a gift…all things change…and are extinguished…apart from the soul (love) which I believe is forever

    I find most of your posts helpful…keep on giving it’s your only right…Ken???

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