Fear is a feeling that we all experience.

It can be triggered by anything from heights to social interactions with strangers. Fear, however, does not always have to be detrimental and paralysing; it can also motivate us and help us make important life decisions.  

Fear can manifest itself in many ways. It might make you shiver, sweat, shake or break into a cold sweat. You may have been told that being scared means that you are brave and strong. In reality, when we are afraid, our mind tells us that there is danger nearby, and it’s up to us to protect ourselves from this threat. 

What is FEAR?

Fearful people might experience tunnel vision, difficulty breathing profoundly or walking normally because their brain has signalled the body for these responses so they can either fight back or run away from the source of anxiety. Fear provides a purpose in life by motivating us to do things such as avoid situations that scare us.

You may be wondering why some people seem so much more successful than others? The answer is that most likely, their success stems from being fearless regarding life challenges or opportunities.

We all experience fear.

They are a natural part of what makes us human. But when they get so intense that it clouds our judgment, we need to take a step back and figure out how to deal with them. It is common to live with fear all our lives and not even know it’s there.

How to Stop Struggling with Fear and Move Away from It

To help you overcome your fears, we have first to understand where they come from, what they are doing in your life, and how you can change them for the better by taking small steps every day. 

Here are a few steps to help you with your fear:

• Identify the fear
• Address the cause of the fear
• Face your fear head-on and be prepared for it to change shape
• Create a plan with steps you can take to reduce your fear over time. 
• Find ways to distract yourself from dwelling on your fears by doing things that make you happy or focusing on something else entirely. 
• Build confidence in your ability to face fears as they come up, one at a time
• If the fear is so intense, it will not release. A therapist can help you release it with ease.

If you are struggling with fear or negative emotions, it could be because your spirituality is not in balance. The way we live our lives affects how we feel, and there’s a lot of pressure on people always to be happy and content. We set unrealistic expectations for ourselves, and when we don’t meet them, we can spiral into depression or anxiety.  

We must learn to take care of our spiritual needs just as much as learning how to take care of our physical needs, such as eating healthy food, getting enough sleep, and exercising regularly.  

How can someone be unhappy while practising spirituality?

The answer is simple: we live in a world full of constraints and limitations. These two factors contribute to our unhappiness, and therefore it’s expected to feel these emotions when we’re trying to break free from them. 

Everyone has different experiences with the same type of event; one person might laugh while the other cries after witnessing an event. It doesn’t mean that one is more spiritually advanced than the other – they react differently because of their coping mechanisms. 

Why stay stuck in fear?

I have seen many people being stuck in the same victim cycle that can cause a lot of fear, as many people fear the unknown. This cycle can go on for 30, 40, even 50+ years. So why do people keep being stuck in their emotional fear?

I believe it’s because they think that this is what life is, that it’s only the lucky people who get to have a good life. This is not true. Wake up, people. You get to have the dream life too. 

I was from impoverished beginnings, where abuse and trauma were an everyday occurrence. This was the norm for many people my age. Regardless of how bad it is, most of us have stepped over the fear and those shit beliefs that were instilled in us by our parents. Our era calls it the school of hard knocks. It’s what has given us resilience and strength in our life. 

But who are we to judge them?

They gave us life. They gave us resilience and strength and boundaries, well, most of us anyway. From my experience of working with thousands of people, I know that society is stuck in victimhood because of this. 

It is a common misconception that spirituality has no negative emotions. There are many different types of feelings and thoughts that are experienced during spiritual moments or activities. It’s also important to remember that these feelings don’t have to be seen as bad things. They’re natural reactions to the events in our lives.

Wouldn’t you say that it’s time to get out of being the victim and honour the creator of your own life?

But so many of us hate change, especially if it comes in the shape of a spiritual awakening. We hate to be judged by our peers and society. What if the very thing you hate to be judged for ‘aka your power, which is your spirituality’, could help you live a charmed life, the creative life that will bring you so much joy, happiness, contentment, and success. 

Our spirituality is a judgment of our lives. It’s how we see the world and what we believe in. When someone has a spiritual crisis, they have been questioning their life choices for some time and now need to make a change. 

If you’ve ever been in a situation where someone has judged you for something, then you know how it feels to be on the other end of this unfortunate experience. I’ll admit that I’m guilty of judging others, too and sometimes without even realising it.

Perhaps we need to take a moment and think about what judgment means before we decide to judge someone else?

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